In my house there are six adults. However only three of them are able to vote. Why? When John, Mark, and Noah each turned 18, we went before a judge and had them declared incompetent in order to protect all of you. That means that they are unable to vote simply because they do not understand the process, nor could they pick a person to vote for based on their own understanding of what the candidate would do or policies they would adopt. Basically, if we had not done this, then at every election I would be able to vote four times for the candidate that I want. And, moving forward, when I was no longer with them, somebody else would be able to do this. As a result of Aran and I making this decision to protect all of you, your vote becomes that much more important.
If my boys could vote, these are the questions I think they would ask the candidates:
How will you protect parents’ mental health when they have to make tough choices in helping their baby/child/adult with developmental/physical/emotional disabilities?
How will you ensure that all children will receive the healthcare they need regardless of parent income or pre-existing condition?
How will you ensure that all parents are able to provide three meals a day for their children, themselves, and anyone under their care?
How will you change the system to include more case workers, social workers, and mental health workers for parents and the children in crisis?
How will you support schools to ensure that they can provide the necessary occupational, physical, speech, and emotional therapies needed, which includes keeping caseloads and class sizes at a smaller number?
How will you increase support for employees working in different kinds of group homes and assisted living facilities, which includes better wages, more training, mental and physical health support?
How will you increase funding to private, local, and state businesses so that they can be safe and welcoming to all people of different abilities?
How will you increase the awareness of doctors, teachers, businesses, and the whole community on the importance of looking at every person’s abilities?
What will you do to help society understand that the label “less productive” is not only demeaning but unmeasurable in order to ensure that things like heart and other organ transplants are no longer based on the cognitive abilities of the recipient?
What will you do to ensure that every person has the ability to obtain a safe place to live and clean water to drink?
Have you ever been to a group home, sheltered workshop, community based residential facility, assisted living facility, or day center for adults with disabilities?
Have you ever attended or supported Special Olympics?
Would you be willing to spend a day at a group home, parent’s home, day center, classroom, or business working with adults with disabilities?
Would you be willing to spend time sitting with parents and adults with disabilities as they tell you their fears and dreams?
Will you consider funding marijuana-based medications that are proven to help, requiring state funded insurance to pay for any medication a doctor prescribes?
These are the situations that we have struggled with and continue to struggle with in trying to give our boys the best life possible. I can’t, shouldn’t, and won’t tell you who to vote for. That is a right and privilege that many don’t have. If you can’t decide who would be better for you then think of others who can’t vote and look at the platforms that will give others the quality of life we all deserve.
So please, vote.
Blessings!